Are you all apologized out this week?
I’d like to discuss a new writing topic: sharing difficult stories.
I once said that writing what you know is terrible advice. I stand by that blog 115%.
However, for those writers that feel the need to write what they know, deciding to do so is often the first step in a long, painful process.
Recently, I was approached about how to write on some very personal subject matter. Without it, the triumphs of the story weren’t as meaningful.
That didn’t mean it was easy to write. However, the decision had been made that, no matter what, this deep rooted pain was going to be the story. How to make it sound real without making it sound whiny, victimized, or a slew of other negatives?
Here’s the truth: it’s easy to let our emotions take center stage when we write personal things. To be whiny, to be a victim. Hell, it’s from YOUR point of view. Recall in the apology blog when I told you to keep it short and sweet because the more you think about it, the more pissed off you’ll get?
I’m going to give you just the opposite advice this time.
Let it all out, my friend.
I truly believe that to write the tough stuff, you simply have to sit down and write it all exactly how YOU feel it happened. Let every hurt, every scar, and every insult just pour out of you. Cry about it. Scream about it. See red. Play the victim. Feel pain. Take no prisoners. Throw everyone under the bus. This is YOURS.
Are you a mess, now?
Leave it for a day.
It’s time to take that puppy from raw to personal, deep and meaningful. You’ll find that you’re much clearer about a written situation when you can come back to it. It’s almost like a time machine or a second chance.
Give it a try.